5 Signs Your Relationship Is Getting Boring
We often ignore signs that the relationship began to bring us only fatigue and irritation. Moreover, there seems to be no obvious reason for concern: you do not quarrel, do not bother each other, everything is smooth in your couple. At first sight.
In fact, by no means everything that seems trifling, logical and socially approved, is such. And here are a few examples of behavior that should make you think carefully about your relationship.
5 Signs Your Relationship Is Getting Boring
1 You are not interested in proving your point of view – Signs Your Relationship Is Getting Boring
We understand you can say: “come on, yes this is wonderful – fewer quarrels and spent nerves.” However, in normal relations, there are no quarrels: people seek to prove to each other that they are right, and this is not selfish. This desire to convey to the partner their feelings, resentment, feelings; show that you care; to pay attention to something that does not suit you.
If the relationship has become uninteresting to both of you, then you will not be scattered and try to enter into an argument with each other. You would prefer to remain silent and hammer on what they think about you, how they will perceive your act, whether they will be offended, will worry or not.
Often people mistakenly believe that if there are no disagreements at all in a couple, then everything is fine with them. Well, maybe there are some exceptions, but basically it’s an alarming bell to the fact that people just do not care for each other.
2 You live as neighbors, sharing life – Signs Your Relationship Is Getting Boring
You live together, but each as if separately. You have a different worldview, life values, perspectives, interests. This can be manifested both in everyday life and in ordinary conversations.
If at the beginning of a relationship, love overshadows all of the above and it seems to you that you will be able to agree, find something in common (besides sympathy), make concessions and combine your life goals, then you are mistaken. Yes, it really can happen, but the likelihood is too small. Most likely, after several months, the realization that no one is moving towards each other and does not want to give up their picture of the world to please a partner will return you to reality and you will move away. Of course, the emotional connection between you will no longer be.
In this case, your life together will resemble the student years when you rented an apartment with your sidekick: you seem comfortable and no one crawls into the personal space of another, but there can be no talk of any common future. Your life scenarios are completely different and have no contact.
3 You are too busy and there is no time for a relationship
Is it worth mentioning that if there is a great desire – there will be time. Let not as much as we would like, but in any case, it will be. Neither a tight schedule at work nor severe fatigue can prevent the two people who need each other from finding an hour to meet or just talk.
“Too busy” is like “I don’t really want to.” And no need to look here for other reasons. If you constantly do not have time for each other, meet and discuss whether you should continue such relations, will you change something or decide to better separate peacefully.
4 You do not make plans for the future – Signs Your Relationship Is Getting Boring
No one talks about talking about weddings, having children and a country house. Such thoughts come to already held couples who decide that they are ready to legitimize their relationship. But if in your life there are no plans for the future at all – definitely, it’s worth considering.
When you meet a person, you must be sure that this relationship has a so-called tomorrow. You do not need to think about whether you will make an offer, and the girl is unlikely to figure out in her mind how many children you will need to give birth. Maybe in a few months you will part – who knows. But in case you can’t make plans even for your weekend, things are so-so.
5 You do not ask each other for help
Usually, this could happen on its own: you asked her to cook you something tasty after work, and she, without hesitation, called you to meet or help bring packages from the store. If now you are on your own and prefer not to burden each other with your requests – ask yourself what led to such isolation.
Relationships are always openness. Need help – just ask for it. If you don’t want to ask, maybe the whole point is that subconsciously you already consider your requests “straining” and don’t want to hear a heavy sigh or reproach in response? Or maybe you yourself are not ready to break away from business and come to the aid of your girlfriend? Well, then why do you need such a relationship? And is this a relationship at all? This is a good question that you should definitely discuss.